Trust. Trust is a really big word. According to dictionary.com, trust means alot of things if used in different contexts but the ones I want to point out are:

1. reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing;
2. a person on whom or thing on which one relies;
3. charge, custody, or care.

Today I just found out that my trust has once again been violated. Today, I just found out that the one person whom we've been living with for the past 22 years have been violating that trust from time to time. I don't know whether I'm more upset for the things I've lost or more dissapointed in knowing that she could still do that to us after such a long time. This isn't the first time as well. We've given her many chances but it still seems to be happening. Although we don't have proper proof that she did it, there is no one else in the house who would do it. When it all started, we thought it was her friends that did it because they occassionally came to the house and we let them. But when confronted, she denied that her friends did it. And if it wasn't them, doesn't that mean she's kinda pointing towards herself?

I was really upset about this. I even started tearing. I didn't want to show my dad and sister (because they were in the car) but it really makes me wonder, do all people that live with you apart from your family are out there to try and hurt you in some sort of way? Be it - emotionally, or monetary. Because that seems to be what's happening to me in the past year. I seriously wonder whether this will leave a scar in me. Would I be able to trust people again?

Comments (2)

On March 26, 2009 at 2:23 PM , Nicholas Yong said...

Initially, our trust (emphasis on the word our) belongs to us. We keep it to ourselves, denying anyone access to it. If a person wishes to obtain our trust, like everything else, that person needs to work for it. How people place their trust is entirely up to them, for it belongs to them in the first place. Ideally, we would all like to place our trust in people who are responsible, reliable and generally decent.

However, like everything else, life is a roller coaster. Ups, downs, they're all there. Throughout our life, we place some degree of trust in the people we meet, the closer they are to us, the more we trust them. Having someone close to us break our trust that we have placed upon them is always disappointing. Best way to resolve conflicts in trust is always communication, calmness and steady and logical thinking. It may not apply to all, but it is always best to resolve all matters peacefully.

Trust always has its limits. We have to be careful on the degree of trust that we place in others. And in this world, no two people are exactly alike. It is up to us on how much we are willing to trust another person, and no man is an island. We will need others to survive, and it generally begins with trust.

 
On March 26, 2009 at 3:25 PM , Nicholas Yong said...

Update: When trust is broken, there will be consequences.

Example: Today, I just scratched my mum's car's side mirror while parking. She placed her trust in me in driving her car safely, and I have unwillingly disappointed her. I have told her about it, and will get pawned today when I get home >.< . But to make sure that I can gain back her trust in me (and the use of the car), I quickly called her and explained to her what happened. There will be consequences, but I will have to work it out. So, once again, steady communication is the key.

P.S. By the way, found a song that would (I think) suit your blog just nicely.

Artist: Anna Nalick
Song: Breathe (2 AM)

YouTube link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jPz3YaIJkjQ

Take care.

 

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